Read This Book! – If It’s A Choice, My Zygote Chose Balls

If It’s Choice, My Zygote Chose Balls – Making Sense of Senseless Controversy is an excellent book. Unfortunately, it’s one of those books that the people who really need to read it probably won’t.  Still, it highlights all the reasons that laws prohibiting LGBT people from enjoying basic freedoms are beyond ridiculous. Jeremy Hooper draws the reader into his personal experiences from realizing he was gay to dealing with his family’s lack of acceptance to finally finding a loving home and a place of peace with his husband, Andrew.

Jeremy has a wonderful attitude in that he doesn’t condemn the people who condemn him. Rather, he focuses on their hateful actions and does his best to approach anti-gay people with a sense of good humor combined with steadfast determination to change the world. He refers to the anti-gay crowd as ‘Mo foes. He also quite often groups straight allies and LGBT people together, which I absolutely loved. I won’t ever know what it’s like to be gay, but I’ve had my share of uncomfortable conversations when standing up for my beliefs. I do put myself out there sometimes when defending the rights of my LGBT brothers and sisters, and it’s nice to be appreciated. In his own words – “It’s noble to care about a cause that directly affects your day-to-day life, but it’s uniquely honorable to realize that any biases against any group of people affect us all as a human collective.”

When people find out that I am a staunch equality ally, the first question I hear is, “Who’s gay?” Meaning, who do I know and love who’s gay that makes me so dedicated to this cause? Ummm, one of the girls I went to high school with is a lesbian and so is a girl I knew at college. One of the boys I used to babysit is gay. However, my activism predates all that. It goes back to 8th grade Catholic school when I heard about the church’s beliefs about homosexuality. I thought their beliefs were nuts. Still do. It pissed me off then and I’ve been mad about it ever since.

Jeremy highlights the importance of straight allies and is always looking for more. So yeah, gays DO recruit others sometimes. They’re recruiting people who believe in equal rights. The author also makes an important point that may people are becoming a bit complacent about the whole issue. Sure, things are MUCH better on the equality fight, but things are far from over. Marriage equality is still a reality in a precious few states. There are places where you can still get fired for being gay! It’s easy to get caught up in a “bubble” as he puts it. It’s so easy to forget how much further we still have to go, both with social acceptance and legal equality.

If you are regular reader of this blog, you know I am preparing to publish my first novel, QUEEN HENRY, on July 14, 2014. It is a story of a macho, homophobic MLB player who learns an important lesson about love when an experimental drug makes him temporarily gay. [Proceeds will be donated to the Harvey Milk Foundation]. Anyway, when I submitted the screenplay version to a producer, he asked if I had a son who was gay. Then he said my story was totally irrelevant because nobody cares if you’re gay anymore. This was 2005.

Talk about living in a bubble.

To say that my story is irrelevant is, unfortunately, ludicrous. Quick, name all the out and proud MLB athletes playing today.

See? Crickets.

I really applaud Jeremy’s approach to seeking equality. Fighting hate with hate never works. His approach is essentially to combine determination and good humor to help change people’s minds and hearts. He makes good arguments for equality and exposes the fallacies of the ‘Mo foes. He also shows how hateful and cruel the opposition can truly be, particularly when their hate is done in the name of God. He exposes the opposition’s use of fear and misinformation to spread lies about people whose only goal is to be permitted to live and love as equal human beings.

“Our driving passion is upwardly mobile. Theirs is regressive. We are standing on a hill, trying to pull everyone up so that we can finally know our collective strength.

Well said.

– Linda Fausnet

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